I seem to have been avoiding posting this week. I have been contemplating life and friendships. I have known that I will write about it in some fashion or another. So, I have been avoiding it. The death of a friend on Monday morning is what brought on this mood. This introspection.
Ian was a close friend of my DH and consequently a friend of mine. He had cancer. In the time that he was sick I do not think that I saw him at all. I know that Jim did go to see him a few months ago. But, since I was not as close to him as Jim I didn't. Now I wonder should I have gone? Should I have let him know that he was cared for and would be missed? I think that I should have.
I think that we should all remember to be in touch with those we care about. We should all remember to let our friends know that they are important in our lives. I know, life happens. We get busy raising our families and making ends meet. But we need to make time. We need to reach out especially when a friend is need even if it is just to say thanks or to be a hand holder.
This sad event comes after a happy reunion with a friend on the previous Friday. We were both remarking on the fact that we had let 10 years slide on past before hooking up again. Again life was happening. She was becoming a lawyer and I was raising my kids. Different phases in our lives. I have always been the type of person to let others walk easily out of my life. As I have grown older I am finding that I let go less easily. Having a friend die is hard. Let it be a reminder to cherish and appreciate the people and the times in our lives.
I wish I could write about it more eloquently. I appreciate all of you and thanks for listening.
Goodbye Ian. You will be missed by many.